It doesn’t matter if you are right, only how people feel — Dominic Cummings & breaking lockdown rules
One of the hardest lessons I ever had to learn growing up (both as a child and in my career) is that it’s often not relevant if you are right. It only matters how people respond — how they feel about it. This is important as the world around you is your environment which will make your life easier or harder. It’s the context you operate in.
If your environment is vitriolically against you, it’s so much harder to get things done; let along the mental strain on you.
The U.K. news today is full of articles about Dominic Cummings (senior adviser to the Prime Minister) and analysis of whether he broke lockdown rules.
I don’t know whether he broke the rules. And that doesn’t matter.
I do know that the country is furious that it appears he did, while so many others made tough choices not to break the rules in times of difficulty. And that it has been stated that he acted “responsibly, legally and with integrity”.
Whether he did or not is entirely irrelevant now; what is relevant is how people feel about it. And you only have to read the papers today to see how they feel.
Our choices are ours to make but they will be judged by the world around us as we don’t operate in a bubble. Our stakeholders are watching even when they aren’t giving us direct feedback. Our friends and significant others are taking note of our actions, as they care about us and what we mean to them.
Ever been in an argument with a loved one and made your case based purely on being right? Epic Fail!
It’s about the outcome of the thing, the impact of the thing and the effect it has on others that’s important. Not whether it was right or not.
So next time you are considering something of importance, ask yourself;
How would others feel about this.